As grandparents we think we will get to axiously await the birth of our grandchildren one day hoping for the chance to spoil them with presents and smother them with hugs and kisses and then send them home to bed tired and happy and spoiled properly. Ready to do it all over again at the next visit or holiday.
But times have changed grand parents are finding themselves being the primary care givers and tucking their grandchildren in at night. At a time of their lives when they should be getting ready to retire or looking to downsize their homes to something more affordable they are having to stay at jobs longer or sometimes even go back to work. Refinance their homes or even buy and bigger home to accommodate
children.
Grandparents are doing this because they love their grandchildren and want what is best for them they realize the children need stability and love and consistancy in their lives to survive lifes obstacles.
One thing though that anyone who has a loved one in this situation needs to realize is this. This person is not a superhero no matter how much they seem to think they can do it all with out anyones help especially in the beginning, If you see a way to offer assistance to the grandparent or other relative caregiver, please do so they need your assistance even when they think they don't.
I was the super hero for a while until I broke down then and only then did I accept the help that everyone had been offering all along.
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