I am going to jump ahead to the present as I have been
writing about the beginnings mostly up until now but I have had some recent
developments that are taking place, and while they are fresh on my mind and in
my face so to speak I thought they might be easier to write about.
Everything has been going smoothly my oldest grandson is
finally opening up he is talking to his counselor he is doing great in school
and making tons of friends; getting along with his siblings. These are all
milestones for him, as when he came to me he was a ticking time bomb looking
for a place to implode. He even recently
told his counselor if his mother were to move down here he would visit her but
would still want to live with us, something that surprised me since he was the
one who for the last 3 ½ years so adamantly talked about going home to mom and
dad’s.
Now 5 days ago my grandchildren’s mom, dad and baby brother age
2 arrived at my door they had decided to move here. Be closer to the children
get away from all of the drama and start their lives over. This was on a Friday kids were ecstatic of
course. On Saturday night, there was an argument; Dad leaves goes back home
1200 miles away leaves mom here with the baby. However, you have to understand
they have had an on and off relationship for the last year. So plus 3, minus 1,
makes 7 children if you include my daughter.
For now until I see how she intends to conduct herself I will count her
as me having another child in the house, because for the last 5 years she has
conducted herself in a selfish and sometimes childish manner, which has
resulted in her not being able to regain custody of the four children I have.
Therefore, this means I now have in the house 6 of my 10
grandchildren and my youngest daughter. Ages of the children are 2, 3, 4, 5, 6,
and 8 my daughter is 24 all but one of these children belong to her and no it
is not the 8 yr old it would be the 3 year old which is not hers. Therefore, I have three preschoolers, three
school age children, and one grown child in my home that makes seven children.
Except that I think one of them plans to get a job, at least I hope she is
heading in that direction. I am willing to do this for a short period, as I
understand what it is like to hit bottom and we as a collective family have
waited a long time for her to hit the proverbial bottom. I will provide a roof
and food. I will not however provide unnecessary items such as minutes for her
phone we have a house phone, or cigarettes, I do not smoke. I quit fifteen years ago and for the price of
a pack of cigarettes, I can almost buy two gallons of milk or at least three
loaves of bread.
The good news is she has a degree in nursing she is an LPN
however, her licensure is from another state so she must wait for a transfer to
go through prior to being able to work in this state. She has made the
necessary applications and now must begin the waiting process for the paper
work to go through. In the meantime, I have the opportunity to observe her with
her children. She has been able to spend significant time with her children
over the last 5 years since they originally went into foster care, so she
really does not know who they are as individuals. They have been growing up
without her she only know what their interests are by reports she gets through
me. I hope over the next few weeks and
months to be able to see that she has grown and matured and can finally become
a mother to them. I do not know if it will ever again be a full time mother, as
they may always have to remain in my home but at least with her in the same
state now the children will have an opportunity to get to know her and not be
completely alienated from her. She still has a multitude of things to work on
in her personal life. I can be thankful at least two of those things are not
drug or alcohol related.
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